Any two people can fall in love but only those who share a true love will fight for that love when things get rocky. Like all relationships ours has gone through its up and downs and let’s be honest we had our shares of downs lately. But true love is defined by how you handle the down times. Are we willing to work through our problems, listen to each other’s, accept responsibility for our part in what has gone wrong and make the changes required to strengthen our relationship?
So many couples refuse to fight to keep their love, fortunately that’s not the case with us. We value the good times we share with each other and don’t want to lose them. So we fight, we fight for our love and with that said I want you to know that I take full responsibility for lately:
Not hearing your voice
Not being responsive to your needs
Not understanding your concerns
But trust me when I say it’s not because of faded feelings, or desire for you. It’s not because I don’t value you. The truth is I love and value you and the thought of us now more than I ever have. The flame in my heart for you burns as bright as it ever has.
Each day I remember:
The connection I felt the very first moment I kissed you.
How seeing you for the first time took my breath taken away.
How your dazzling smile instantly captivated me, and your mesmerizing eyes drew me in.
I never want to stop being:
Able to smile, laugh out loud and talk to the most intelligent, insightful and unique woman I have ever met.
Able to go to sleep knowing when I wake you will be right there next to me.
You are the most remarkable woman I have ever known, you stir my passion like no other ever has or ever could.
My best friend.
You hold the key to my heart and there is nothing I would not do to make our lives together as fulfilling as possible. Because my love for you is true.
I have always identified myself as African-America. I embrace who I am and where I come from. I proudly tell anyone who listens to me that despite being stripped of our culture, our language, our very identity and sold into slavery, despite Jim Crow, despite the KKK and other groups that hate us, despite the economic and social inequality thrust upon us and a host of other roadblocks African Americans are as responsible as any other people in the shaping of America into the country it is today.
Unfortunately like many African Americans I have been called a nigger, I have had the barrel of a police officer’s gun pointed directly at my face simply for throwing a football in the backyard of a friend who happened to live in an all-white neighborhood. Despite never being in trouble with the law and not really dressing like the mythical stereotypical “threating African American male” I’ve been stopped for driving while black, stopped and frisked for no apparent reason and seen white women cross the street at night when they have noticed me. Yet my story is a little more complicated than just the color of my skin.
Adopted it wasn’t until my late 30s did I discover I was basically half white. A DNA test courtesy of 23 and me confirmed that my DNA profile is mostly Nigerian, twenty seven percent, followed closely at twenty four percent Ashkenazi Jew. So, for the KKK I’m basically the jackpot, you know lynch one get one free. In totality I’m Fifty four percent Sub-Saharan African and Forty-three percent European. Bottom line is that no matter who my DNA traces back to I’m always going to be who I am and anyone who knows me or meets me should judge me based on my character, not the color of my skin, what religion I practice, my sexual orientation, country of origin or a host of other factors we have invented to separate ourselves from one another.
In the very beginning of the 1968 classic Planet of the Apes Charleston Heston’s character Colonel Taylor wonder if that throughout the thousands of galaxies, millions of stars, if there is only one, a speck of solar dust we call Earth that has been graced or cursed by human life. He wonders if man, the marvel of the universe still makes war against his brother and lets his neighbor’s children starve. At the end of the movie the Dr. Zaius informs Taylor that he has always know about man and that he must be a warlike animal who gives battles to everything around him, even himself. Science fiction from over fifty years ago or reality from today? Because as we are get ready to usher in the third decade of he twenty first century we are still waging war against each other, still letting our neighbor’s children starve, and still looking to give battle to ourselves. The ending of Planet of the Apes doesn’t paint a bright future for humanity, YOU BLEW IT UP, and it does not take much to suspend belief very much to see our future playing out the same way.
In the last few years America has seen a rise in hate crimes as a percentage of Americans increasingly feel threatened by anyone who does not look, sound, live or worship the way they do. It has always been a simmering but now with an administration that tacitly endorses it, remember a group that walked the streets of Charlottesville chanting the Jew will never replace us was said to have good people, it seems ready to boil over.
Now is a crucial time we as a people must guard against our own prejudices and make no mistake no matter who we are we all have some prejudices dwelling with-in us. We cannot allow ourselves to be divided. I have heard a few of my Jewish brother and sisters. dismissing Black Lives Matter with comments as if they don’t want to be targeted they shouldn’t commit crimes. I have heard a few of my African brothers and sisters dismiss anti-Semitic violence as overblown angrily wondering why bigotry is seemingly only deemed a problem when it happens to the Jews and not when it happens to the African American community. I have heard both groups go after one another over the nonsensical debate about what was worse holocaust or slavery. I have witnessed African Americans and Latinos who loath each other as they fight over the limited resources afforded to them because of inherent social and economic inequality. It is precisely these divides that play into the hand of those who preach racism and bigotry. Keep them divided and fighting among themselves they say it makes it easier for us to keep them down.
Yet despite all of this I truly believe as I have said many times in this blog as time goes by those who preach racism, bigotry, sexism, judge people based on their religion or are homophobic are a dying breed and we must not give them any life by falling into their trap of fighting among ourselves.
We are the voice of the many.
We see no difference in each other.
We judge each other for who we are and what we do.
We unite as one people.
We are America!
And we are gaining in strength everyday and it’s just a matter of time before we defeat you.
America has no face.
America has many faces.
How refreshing it was to watch the democratic debate on CNN last night and see so many of faces. White, Black, Latino and Asian; Men and Women; Straight and Gay; Young and Old, Progressives and Moderates. All vying to be the democratic nominee for President. Now you can agree or disagree with their politics, but you can’t deny that almost everyone in America could look at that stage and see someone they could personally identify with and that’s what makes America great. We are a country of many different races, ethnicities, beliefs, religions, sexualities, economic levels and social beliefs, an incredible mosaic woven together to form very fabric of America. It was the founding fathers who imagined this America when declaring independence from British rule proudly stating:
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal
At the time it was more of an ideal than something that was practiced, there was still the little issues of slavery and displacing Native Americans from their home land, but it was an ideal never the less of what America could and should be. Today there are still those among us who would have you believe America was at its greatest when segregation was the rule of day, when opportunities for women in the workplace were far and few between, when being gay was meet with societal shame. That America is no more. America is changing, some may think not fast-enough, but it is changing. Evolving beyond its past prejudices. We are now the majority, we are the coalition of the righteous. It is why I believe you see individuals who turn a blind eye to alleged corruption by our current President and cling to his mantra of hate and division and a time when as a Americans we were less enlightened time fighting so hard now. They are afraid of the new America, unwilling to open themselves up to anyone or anything that is different from themselves and what they believe to be right. This is their last stand and they know it, but it is to late momentum is against them, the new America is here, and it is many faces coming together to form one voice and shout:
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal
It is after all the ideal that America was founded on.
It’s been a minute hasn’t it been, but there you were in my dreams again tip toeing into my subconscious when I thought I had forgotten all about you. I’m not going to lie seeing you again brought a smile to my face, all the good memories we created together flooding my mind. It’s funny now to think there was a time that the thought of you and I, what we were and how that is no more made me sad. But that time has passed, I’m so much stronger now. Aware now of all the love that had always been afforded me by so many. To finally understand that the love of the Lord is stronger than any love I could ever desire. I’ve learned to embrace myself, to love myself. So yes, now the memory of the happy times between us, and there were some damn good times, makes me smile for I accept now they were an essential part of the journey I’ve been on to be the person I am today. Goodbye for now it was nice seeing you again and I hope you have found the happiness that you were a part of in me finding mine.
Message from above
Genesis 1:27 And God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
So I created humanity? Not Americans, Mexicans, Chinese, etc but humanity as a whole and children no matter what nationality label you put on them are the most vulnerable and precious part of my creation. Hmmm yet you still divide the beautiful resources of this unique planet I gave you instead of sharing it with one another. You still believe it is morally correct to stand up and proclaim America or insert whatever country you want first while others suffer.
Well I see as a species despite the gift of thought that I blessed you with you still have much to learn. Let me give you a little head start, try proclaiming this -Humanity first
How was it that Donald Trump, when all the exit polls showed otherwise, was able to capture the Presidency of the United States?
I say the future is ours…
…if you can count!
Now, look what we have
here before us.
We’ve got the Muslims…
…sitting next to
We’ve got the Christians …
…right by the Atheists
The Whites up against the Blacks and the heterosexuals back to back with the homosexuals.
Nobody is wasting nobody.
…is a miracle.
is the way things ought to be.
You’re standing right now
with nine delegates from every race, nationality religion and sexual orientation
That’s over 7 and a half billion humans.
Now, put that in perspective and you’ll understand there ain’t but a handful of racist, misogynist, intolerant hate filled humans left in this whole world
Can you dig it?
Can you dig it?
Can you dig it?
Now here’s the sum total.
Unity and tolerance could run this world.
We could make it a paradise. Because we got the Earth
Can you dig it?
The problem in the past
has been those committed to hate and division turning us against one another.
We have been unable
to see the truth,
because we’ve been fighting
for 10 square feet of ground,
our turf, our little piece of turf.
That’s crap, brothers and sisters
The turf is ours by right
because it’s our turn.
All we have to do
is see the good in each other
We slowly root out the hate from each corner of the globe
Secure our territory,
secure our turf
because it’s all our turf and this Earth would be a paradise.
Can you dig it.
Sometimes we have to do what we don’t want to do so that we may do the things we want to do. As Spock would say it is not logical but it is often true.
What does it mean to be American. It means you are part of a diverse community that includes individuals of different races, ethnic backgrounds, sexual orientations, religious beliefs and a host of other differences. That we embrace those differences so together we become greater than the sum of all us. That we educate ourselves on each other’s differences so we may be better understand our fellow Americans. That we rebuke those who believe in dividing us by stoking the prejudices and fears that innately resides in each of us so they can enhance their own power and wealth. That we reject the notion that preaching uniformity will make America great again, as if the continued diversification of this great land made us not great. That we dismiss those who believe we should isolate ourselves from others instead of showing compassion for those who are suffering from other countries. That we do not simply quote the words All Men are Created Equal but that we actively live them. It is in the melding of each one of us into society as a whole and the embrace of that philosophy that makes us American.