Tag Archives: Self Worth

Different? Of course I am – I was born to stand out

Ever had someone tell you you’re strange? Just look them in the eye and tell them of course I seem strange to you because I am different. Don’t you know I was created to stand out from the masses, to be special. You will never be able to define me. You know why? Because I refuse to live by your definition of who I am or what I can accomplish. I know my potential is unlimited and my desire to reach it boundless. I will never allow myself to be constrained by fear of failure. Yet I will not bask in my success either. No, I will simply endeavor each day to be better than I was the day before, because I was created to be special.

Cast away your self doubt

To paraphrase George R.R. Martin you wear your self doubt like a suit of armor. You think it keeps you safe from failure but all it does is weigh you down and make it impossible to grow. You must not let your fears rule you, drive you to inaction. They must be faced as you will gain strength, and confidence with every experience where you have looked fear in the face. Once your of failure is conquered you can cast away that self doubt suit of armor and move forward freely in the direction of your dreams.

Self doubt does not protect you from failure but from your chances of success.

You think your self doubt protects you, shields you from the unknown, the possibilities of failure. You believe your self doubt has served you well. You do not call it self doubt you call it practical and smart decision making. But deep down you realize that your self doubt has limited your potential. Your life can best be described as humdrum, you are paralyzed to step out of the box and seize the opportunities presented to you for fear of failure   There is a part of you that craves more but your self doubt or as you would say your smart and practical decision making has convinced you to accept the status quo. After all you tell yourself if you march to the beat of the drummer and don’t rock the boat everything will be fine. You no longer grow and growth is paramount to a person’s long term happiness in themselves.  Fortunately you are not bound by self doubt you can overcome it.  The first step is taking a step back and admitting that you have it. Nothing can be overcome unless you believe it is there in the first place.  Once you have acknowledged self doubt you define yourself in the positive. Defining yourself in a positive light rather that relying on the opinions of others will help you build self worth. Having a healthy self worth means you look inward not outward for validation never having to question if others think you can accomplish something but knowing you can accomplish it. Embrace the opportunities presented to you with the full knowledge that you may fail. Accept that failure is but a building block of success providing you with valuable lessons. Finally build on your small successes, drink them in no matter how small they may be, as they will help your self confidence evolve. Self confidence is like the proverbial snowball rolling down hill, except your self confidence will be headed the other way, the more you achieve now the greater it becomes later. Once you have decided to step out of the box you are currently in and grab hold of your future follow these steps to cast away your self doubt and to unleash the potential that lives within you.

 

 

 

The loss of control

It’s a new day go out and do something you have been afraid to try. Cast away your self doubts because Self doubt leads to the loss of control. Control of how you define yourself, the actions you take, the outcomes of your life. You become a passenger to your own destiny neither guiding the journey nor knowing where you are going. Your success  or failure determined by the whims of fate.

The dreams of childhood

We had no choice when we were conceived but once life is given to us we are given the choice of if we truly want to live it to its fullest. For too many of us life slowly devolves from the dreams of childhood to the commonplace existence of adulthood.  Many of us have made the conscious decision not to live our lives but to simply exist within the confines of society’s definition of who and what we should be. Afraid to be who we are for fear of others reactions to it. But it is true that if we accept this type of existence we cease to grow and the entire point of living is to grow each day, to reach for and cultivate the potential that resides within each of us. The question we must ask ourselves is do we want to grow, do we still believe in those childhood dreams. If we answer honestly we would say yes we want those dreams that were extinguished as we entered adulthood.  Dreams that were replaced by the so called practical mindset favored by the masses. The same masses who drudge their way through a colorless existence. But we are not meant to live a colorless existence. Our lives are meant to be represented by the full spectrum of color. But if we continue being honest with ourselves we would have to admit that many of us are afraid to step out of the box.  So now the unclear question is how do we get there? How do we reject society’s image of what we want to be? It is not an easy answer it requires an unwavering belief in one self and abilities. The fearlessness to take that step off the cliff and believe you will fly when most will tell you man is not meant to fly. But what you must understand is those who tell you can’t fly neither have the self confidence to believe they can or the fearlessness to try. It is your belief in yourself that will not only allow you to fly but soar with eagles. Gone will be the colorless mundane of a life you were drudging through replaced by a life filled with vibrant colors we seek and new possibilities every day.

Dreams don’t manifest themselves

There are those among us who believe that the universe will simply manifest their dreams into reality before their eyes. A nice thought but dreams do not simply manifest themselves, dreams are seized by those of us who work to make them a reality. Seized by those of us who reject fear of failure, believe in possibilities and our potential to make those possibilities a reality. Without the belief in one self none of this is possible but when we start to believe in ourselves anything is possible. We all have faith in one self it is just being held back by fear and self doubt. But the same effort we put into holding onto those emotions can be put into unleashing our self confidence. We simply need to set goals for ourselves, have the courage to act upon them and visualize our success. Once we have unleashed that belief in ourself anything is possible and we won’t have to wait around for our dreams to magically manifest themselves we will have it within ourselves to seize them.