I traveled the long road through the tunnel of despair, depression and self-doubts, and emerged a better person. The journey while difficult was worth it because you must look despair squarely in the eye to find yourself and at the of my journey I had rediscovered myself. I realized that receiving the accolades of others, being recognized for my achievements may have made me happy but was not the key to my happiness. I realized that while I was looking for validation from society the only validation I needed is from with-in. Gone was the fear of failure because I may fail again and its place was the resolve to move forward and seize the possibilities the future holds. I no longer put on a face for the world to believe I was happy but show my real face because I am happy. For in traveling the road back I found the keys to being truly happy, belief in myself and what I can accomplish. The journey may have been arduous but it helped me to find the strength to discover myself and to believe in my potential.
You think your self doubt protects you, shields you from the unknown, the possibilities of failure. You believe your self doubt has served you well. You do not call it self doubt you call it practical and smart decision making. But deep down you realize that your self doubt has limited your potential. Your life can best be described as humdrum, you are paralyzed to step out of the box and seize the opportunities presented to you for fear of failure There is a part of you that craves more but your self doubt or as you would say your smart and practical decision making has convinced you to accept the status quo. After all you tell yourself if you march to the beat of the drummer and don’t rock the boat everything will be fine. You no longer grow and growth is paramount to a person’s long term happiness in themselves. Fortunately you are not bound by self doubt you can overcome it. The first step is taking a step back and admitting that you have it. Nothing can be overcome unless you believe it is there in the first place. Once you have acknowledged self doubt you define yourself in the positive. Defining yourself in a positive light rather that relying on the opinions of others will help you build self worth. Having a healthy self worth means you look inward not outward for validation never having to question if others think you can accomplish something but knowing you can accomplish it. Embrace the opportunities presented to you with the full knowledge that you may fail. Accept that failure is but a building block of success providing you with valuable lessons. Finally build on your small successes, drink them in no matter how small they may be, as they will help your self confidence evolve. Self confidence is like the proverbial snowball rolling down hill, except your self confidence will be headed the other way, the more you achieve now the greater it becomes later. Once you have decided to step out of the box you are currently in and grab hold of your future follow these steps to cast away your self doubt and to unleash the potential that lives within you.
They say never say never but I have learned that’s not true. For example
Never let others define you.
Define yourself. Let society define the masses while you remain true to yourself and who and what you strive to be.
Never let others set your limits.
Don’t let go of your dreams. Dream of the infinite possibilities you are capable of and then reach for them, life is too short to be contained inside a box.
Never let someone else opinion determine your own opinion of your self worth.
Undoubtedly by now you have determined that you cannot please everyone, even if you live a righteous life. Once you have accept that fact only your opinion of your self-worth matters will you find happiness.
Never dwell in the past.
Do not run from it, hide from it, or pretend it does not exist. The past both good and bad played a prominent role in what you are today. Rather learn from it, grow from it, gain strength from it and then let it go and move on. Life exist in the now you should too.
Never chase after someone who has left you and never beg anyone to be with you.
Rather simply understand if they do not possess the superior intellect to realize their good fortune in having you in their life than logic dictates they were never worthy of you in the first place.
We have all been there clinging to that last hope, feeling like we are nurturing nothing more than a pipe-dream. Doubt surrounding us and we naturally begin to wonder if we ever will accomplish what we set out to do, if we will ever find the happiness we so desperately want.
But doubt is only a state of mind, nothing more than a defensive mechanism designed to soften the blow if we fail to achieve our goals. Doubt gives us the fall back option of stating – No big deal after all I never really believed it would happen anyway
But the truth is in order to manifest our happiness, to take hold of our future, we must find it within ourselves to cast away all doubt. To step to the precipice of our hopes and dreams and bodily reach out and grab them. To move forward with no doubt and the belief that our dreams are indeed ours for the taking.
Rightfully so there are concerns regarding the number of young men of color who are living their lives behind bars. Yet as we walk through our own communities we cannot escape the reality that many of us choose to voluntarily live our own lives behind bars, barricading our homes and ourselves from both the real and perceived dangers of our own communities. It is time for this to change.
It is time that we look inward for solutions to address the issues that plague our communities.
It is time we pull together to uplift our communities spiritually, socially and emotionally.
It is time we work together to increase the financial viability of our communities and those who reside in them.
It is time we strive to turn our communities around, from a place we look to escape to one we want to return to.
It is time!