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Those of us…

The road to greatness is a journey traveled by those of us who believe we were born to stand apart from the masses.

Those of us who recognize that the potential of greatness is within all of us but is only unleashed by those of us who do not fear the unknown. 

Those of us who are unafraid to reach for what others say is impossible. 

Those of us who understand that limits are merely artificial constraints created by the few to hinder the potential of the many. 

Those of us who refuse to give up the colorful dreams of our childhood in favor of the colorless existence society tries to limit us to. Those of us who have an unwavering belief in ourselves and what we can accomplish.  

Join us and take that step off the road of the ordinary and know you will fly, no soar with the eagles above the clouds to the road to greatness. 

They Only Dare to Whisper

Ssh, can you hear them?
Of course not they only dare to whisper if they dare even whisper at all
But I shout out loud for all to hear, and I do so unapologetically
I know our time on this planet is but a blink of the eye
So I listen to the rhythm of my heart
I embrace my dreams
No one can deter me
No one can stop me
I will reach for the stars
I will not silence the talent that resides within me
Others may only dare whisper if they dare even whisper at all
But I do not fear rocking the boat
I am not afraid to stand alone
I have the courage to be great
As Prince said, Baby, I’m a star

Baby I’m a Star

Today June 7th is Prince’s birthday and I believe we should heed his words and think of ourselves and live our lives like this.
I know I do!

Baby I’m a star
Might not know it now
Baby but I’m a star
I don’t want to stop, ’til I reach the top
Better look now or it just might be too late

Now

Let’s go crazy
Let’s get nuts

It’s almost sunrise, are you ready?

It’s almost sunrise, are you ready? Because:
When they said it could not be done, we said, why not.
When they said we’ve come as far as we can go, we took another step.
We have never been confined by boundaries.
We have always believed there are possibilities.
We have an unwavering belief in ourselves and what we can accomplish.
We fly upon the wings of our dreams and achieve what few would even dare dream. Are you ready to join us?
Are you ready to let go of what you have been taught to believe and start believing in yourself?
Are you ready to believe that you are only confined by the boundaries you make up in your mind?
Are you ready?

So What

They say they don’t believe in you, so what

They say you can’t do it, so what

They say you aren’t smart enough, so what

They say you aren’t strong enough, so what

They say you aren’t imaginative enough, so what

They say you tried and failed before, so what

They say no one has ever done it before, so what

They say only a fool would try and do it, so what

You say so what because

You know who you are

You know what you’re capable of 

You know you’re strong enough

You know you’re smart enough

You know no one has ever done it, but you don’t care because you aren’t like everyone else

You know you are special, you were born to be great, and no one is going to stop you from reaching your full potential

So let them go ahead and doubt you, so what

Tell Me Why?

Tell me why? 

Why do you doubt yourself? 

Why do you believe you can not soar with eagles? 

Is it because you’re afraid to try something new?

Is it because others say you can’t do it? 

Is it because you are afraid of failing? 

Is it because you tried before and failed? 

Do you even know, or do you just accept that you can’t do it? 

Greatness is never just handed to someone. The truly great learn from their failures and forge ahead. They do allow themselves to be discouraged; they pay no attention to those who are quick to point to their failure as a reason to give up hope. They are not afraid to get back up and look for a new way to succeed because they believe that they have it within themselves to achieve anything that they put their minds to. With each lesson learned, they add another rung to the ladder, a ladder that eventually will take them to their desire destination. A ladder that will lead them to a place where eagles soar. 

So I ask again tell me why you can’t soar as well? 

I don’t believe in the no-win scenario

Captain James T. Kirk famously said I don’t believe in the no-win scenario. Kirk liked to think there always are…possibilities. 

How many times in our life have we given up on or not even tried to accomplish something because our minds have been conditioned to believe it was not possible no matter what we do? That it was a no-win scenario. How different would our lives be if we allowed ourselves to accept the simple concept that there are always possibilities? 

Many in society don’t want us to believe that. Be it because they have achieved a level of success they don’t want us to reach, or they are afraid of reaching for the stars. But we deserve success as much as anyone else, and we should not fear reaching for the stars because we may not capture them. We should fear letting the opportunity for greatness elude us because we settled for mediocrity. After all, we’ll never get to captain the Starship Enterprise if we believe in no-win scenarios.

Black is Beautiful

Drug dealers, gang bangers, fatherless, welfare-dependent prisoners are some of the images that the media bombard us with. When faced with these images daily, many of us begin to accept them and have lower life expectations of ourselves. In essence, we are letting the stereotypes of others define who we are rather than defining ourselves. The positive images of African Americans is often that of athletes and hip hop stars, implying that there are limited roads to success within the African-American community. Protest against social injustice by African Americans stars is spun as unpatriotic and done by individuals who are fortunate that society has given them so much. Notice I said given, not earned, because, for many, the thought of the African American working hard and earning their position in society is a foreign concept. As Carter G. Woodson said, “to handicap a student by teaching him that his black face is a curse and that his struggle to change his condition is hopeless is the worst sort of lynching.”

1984 brought us the Cosby Show centered on the lives of the fictional Huxtables obstetrician Cliff his lawyer wife Claire, and their children Sondra, Denise, Vanessa and Rudy, and son Theo. The show was unique in that not only did it depict an upper-middle-class African American family, we had seen that before on shows such as The Jeffersons, but one that not one but two professionals headed the family. They were portrayed as merely a family residing in Brooklyn, not an African American family, merely a family. They were not the exception to the rule; instead, they were just another successful family. The Huxtables showed us that African Americans could be successful and be mothers and fathers who have children who attend college because it isn’t that what all kids do when they graduate high school. They were the embodiment of what all American families, white and black, strive to be.

2008 brought us Barack Obama, who, against all odds, became America’s first African American President. Something many of us believed we would never live to see. He was a highly educated man of color and a dedicated husband and father. While in office, some media outlets looked to marginalize his accomplishments, question his citizenship and disintegrate his character. Still, thanks to his magnetic personality and superior oratory skills, President Obama overcame media attempts to downplay or mischaracterize him. He represented himself with a class and dignity rarely seen by a politician and won respect and admiration not only from Americans but worldwide. His wife Michelle, a strong, educated, beautiful woman of color, so much so that the thought of her running for President today does not seem out of the realm of possibility, was also at times a victim of certain media outlets attempt to paint the Obama’s in a poor light. But like her husband, she too possessed a magnetic personality and superior oratory skills, which easily allowed her to deflect any negativity aimed at her. The Obama’s represented what is possible for all African Americans. No longer was it a fantasy to tell your child they could grow up to be President because it has been accomplished and accomplished with dignity and class.

2018 brought us the hugely success Marvel movie Black Panther. Movie theaters were packed with people of color, young and old, men and women, some who hadn’t been to a movie in years. They left the theater not only entertained by the film itself but with a pride of their culture. Wakanda, after all, was undeniably African. Its citizens are highly educated, and its women are depicted as strong and beautiful, its men strong and dedicated to family. Wakanda forever became a calling card of many because the imaged world of Wakanda represented a look at what African Americans could be. That we could fly above the clouds and achieve greatness.

One cannot quantify the impact the positive images of these fictional and non-fictional African Americans have had on the African American community. Still, it has no doubt allowed some of us to dream of possibilities to consider what we can accomplish regardless of our skin color. This begs the question of the responsibility of successful African Americans in giving back to their community. For many successful African Americans, success is often measured by moving out of their community into a predominantly white neighborhood. Leaving behind many of those they used to associate with in exchange for new friends who are predominantly white, rejecting much of the culture they were raised in to fit their new surroundings better. They reject African American businesses citing their supposed inferiority to that of businesses run by others. It as Carter G Woodson said, “Negro banks, as a rule, have failed because the people, taught that their own pioneers in business cannot function in this sphere, 

Ironically, Harlem, one of the bastions of African American culture, has in recent years seen a renaissance not as the result of successful African Americans returning but to an influx of white people. Unfortunately, as this great community strengthens, African Americans are pushed out.

So is it truly the responsibility of the thriving African American too, as Lebron James said in his 2017 ESPY awards speech, “go back to our communities, invest our time, our resources, help rebuild them, help strengthen them, help change them.” In this writer’s opinion, the answer is an unequivocal yes. As each successive generation serves as positive role models and mentors, invests in the building of a prosperous and robust infrastructure that employs those in the community and affords the children of those adults the opportunity to attain a quality education, the foundation is put in place where success is not seen as the exception but the norm. The perception of the African American image within ourselves changes from one that is not worthy to one who is exceptional and has unlimited opportunities before them. As Fredrick Douglas said, “The soul that is within me no man can degrade.”

The building of this thought process will not come easy as Carole Mosley-Braun so pointedly put it “Defining myself, as opposed to being defined by others, is one of the most difficult challenges I face” and as Malcolm X once said, “Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you’re a man, you take it.” The African American can not wait for others to “save” us, build up our communities, employ our men and women, educate our children, and, most importantly, pass down the history of our many accomplishments. The African American must act from within to achieve these goals. We must set the groundwork so that. Each succeeding generation grows up with the belief as the 1970’s slogan said Black is Beautiful. That they shout from the mountain tops what James Brown once sang, I’m black, and I’m proud. That they define themselves and not let others define them.