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They Questioned

The people in the store questioned if I should to be there.

My classmates questioned if I should be there.

My colleagues questioned if I should be there.

The authorities in my neighborhood questioned if I should be there.

They question without knowing who I am.

They question without really seeing me.

They question because of the color of my skin.

But know this

I make no apologies for the color of my skin.

I have no desire to prove my worth to them.

I will not fake who I am just to make them feel comfortable.

Let them keep questioning.

Let them keep wondering.

Let them do so as I keep soaring because as James Brown said I’m black and I’m proud.

What if I told you

Would you believe if I told you that:

I do not worry about the pursuit of earthly riches.
I do not fret about my status in life.
I have cast away my fears of failure.
I do not allow self doubt to consume me.
I have been relieved of all my worry.

What if I told you all of this is because:

I give my heart and soul unconditionally to the Lord.
I believe that through my faith the Lord forgives me of my sin and loves me unconditionally in return.
I am strengthened in the knowledge that I do not walk alone on this journey. That He is guiding me and protecting me each step of the way.
I believe that with the Lord all things are possible.
I am emboldened in the knowledge that through my prayers, praise and faith in Him. The Lord will rain down blessings upon me.

What if I told you that by setting aside your pride and allowing the spirit of the Lord to consume you that you too could be freed of self doubt, worry and the pursuit of earthly riches. Would you? Could you?

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The Journey

I traveled the long road through the tunnel of despair, depression and self-doubts, and emerged a better person. The journey while difficult was worth it because  you must look despair squarely in the eye to find yourself and at the of my journey I had rediscovered myself.  I realized that receiving the accolades of others, being recognized for my achievements may have made me happy but was not the key to my happiness.  I realized that while I was looking for validation from society the only validation I needed is from with-in. Gone was the fear of failure because I may fail again and its place was the resolve to move forward and seize the possibilities the future holds. I no longer put on a face for the world to believe I was happy but show my real face because I am happy. For in traveling the road back I found the keys to being truly happy, belief  in myself and what I can accomplish. The journey may have been arduous but it helped me to find the strength to discover myself and to believe in my potential.

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Self doubt does not protect you from failure but from your chances of success.

You think your self doubt protects you, shields you from the unknown, the possibilities of failure. You believe your self doubt has served you well. You do not call it self doubt you call it practical and smart decision making. But deep down you realize that your self doubt has limited your potential. Your life can best be described as humdrum, you are paralyzed to step out of the box and seize the opportunities presented to you for fear of failure   There is a part of you that craves more but your self doubt or as you would say your smart and practical decision making has convinced you to accept the status quo. After all you tell yourself if you march to the beat of the drummer and don’t rock the boat everything will be fine. You no longer grow and growth is paramount to a person’s long term happiness in themselves.  Fortunately you are not bound by self doubt you can overcome it.  The first step is taking a step back and admitting that you have it. Nothing can be overcome unless you believe it is there in the first place.  Once you have acknowledged self doubt you define yourself in the positive. Defining yourself in a positive light rather that relying on the opinions of others will help you build self worth. Having a healthy self worth means you look inward not outward for validation never having to question if others think you can accomplish something but knowing you can accomplish it. Embrace the opportunities presented to you with the full knowledge that you may fail. Accept that failure is but a building block of success providing you with valuable lessons. Finally build on your small successes, drink them in no matter how small they may be, as they will help your self confidence evolve. Self confidence is like the proverbial snowball rolling down hill, except your self confidence will be headed the other way, the more you achieve now the greater it becomes later. Once you have decided to step out of the box you are currently in and grab hold of your future follow these steps to cast away your self doubt and to unleash the potential that lives within you.

 

 

 

The path of the unknown

Self doubt, the fear of the unknown, too often it paralyses us from moving forward. We forsake our dreams afraid to take the path of the unknown. We prefer instead to travel the known path frequented by the many, the path of least resistance. That path may offer security but rarely does it offer the possibilities our soul strives for. We should not fear the ramifications of traveling the unknown road. We should fear the lost possibilities for traveling only the known one. For one who favors the path of the unknown in favor of of the known will forever be a prisoner of society’s definition of who and what they are and never shall they achieve their dreams.

Self confidence doesn’t guarantee success but lack of it guarantees failure

I have found that sometimes my self confidence does not alway equal success. Not for a lack of trying but simply because this time it didn’t work out. The setbacks did not fill me with a sense of failure. I was never afraid to get back up and try again. Why? Because I understand that while my self confidence does not always guarantee success if I allow myself to give in to self doubt it will almost always guarantee failure.

The loss of control

It’s a new day go out and do something you have been afraid to try. Cast away your self doubts because Self doubt leads to the loss of control. Control of how you define yourself, the actions you take, the outcomes of your life. You become a passenger to your own destiny neither guiding the journey nor knowing where you are going. Your success  or failure determined by the whims of fate.

The dreams of childhood

We had no choice when we were conceived but once life is given to us we are given the choice of if we truly want to live it to its fullest. For too many of us life slowly devolves from the dreams of childhood to the commonplace existence of adulthood.  Many of us have made the conscious decision not to live our lives but to simply exist within the confines of society’s definition of who and what we should be. Afraid to be who we are for fear of others reactions to it. But it is true that if we accept this type of existence we cease to grow and the entire point of living is to grow each day, to reach for and cultivate the potential that resides within each of us. The question we must ask ourselves is do we want to grow, do we still believe in those childhood dreams. If we answer honestly we would say yes we want those dreams that were extinguished as we entered adulthood.  Dreams that were replaced by the so called practical mindset favored by the masses. The same masses who drudge their way through a colorless existence. But we are not meant to live a colorless existence. Our lives are meant to be represented by the full spectrum of color. But if we continue being honest with ourselves we would have to admit that many of us are afraid to step out of the box.  So now the unclear question is how do we get there? How do we reject society’s image of what we want to be? It is not an easy answer it requires an unwavering belief in one self and abilities. The fearlessness to take that step off the cliff and believe you will fly when most will tell you man is not meant to fly. But what you must understand is those who tell you can’t fly neither have the self confidence to believe they can or the fearlessness to try. It is your belief in yourself that will not only allow you to fly but soar with eagles. Gone will be the colorless mundane of a life you were drudging through replaced by a life filled with vibrant colors we seek and new possibilities every day.

Opportunity is the prisoner of self doubt

Safety and comfort come from focusing on what you know but being afraid to step outside that box and explore the unknown limits one opportunities. Opportunity becomes the prisoner of self doubt when you don’t believe in yourself. With a belief in yourself you will have the courage to walk a path which has not been walked before. To free your mind to embrace the possibilities that the unknown offers. Move forward with the knowledge that as Captain Kirk once said “There is no such thing as the unknown. Only things temporarily hidden, temporarily not understood.”