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Stay Down Stay Down

I didn’t see it coming. It happened so fast, and the blow was devastating; I was out before I even hit the ground. Woozy, but I could hear the count loud and clear.

One

Two

Three

Four

I’ve got to get up, I thought to myself, but the voices around me were screaming, stay down, stay down. 

Five

Six

I got to my knees.

Stay down, stay down, they continued to shout.

Seven

I reached for the ropes.

Eight

I started to pull myself up.

You’re gonna get hurt. Don’t be a fool. Stay down, stay down.

Nine

I struggled to my feet.

You can’t win. Stay down, Stay down, they continued to shout. 

The ref looked me in the eye and said, are you sure you want to continue? Battered but not out, I looked him back in the eye and said I ain’t done yet.

Fight

Now the fight is over, the final bell has rung, and the judge’s cards are in; the announcer takes the microphone and informs everyone of the decision.  

The winner by unanimous decision and new champion! 

Me! Yes Me! He said Me!

I trained for this moment.

I overcame the brutal knockdown.

I refused to listen to those who said I couldn’t win.

I refused to stay down.

I kept fighting because I believed, even if no one else did, that I could, and I would succeed, I would control my own destiny. I would be great, and now here I am, the winner and new champion. How about that. 

Live Among The Stars

Keep moving forward. Do not shy away from obstacles in your path; instead, meet them head-on and overcome them. Tell those that doubt you to look into your eyes and try and find fear or self-doubt because it does not exist within you. Push yourself until you reach your limits, and when you do, run right past them, exceed them and not only reach for the stars but live among them. 

So What

They say they don’t believe in you, so what

They say you can’t do it, so what

They say you aren’t smart enough, so what

They say you aren’t strong enough, so what

They say you aren’t imaginative enough, so what

They say you tried and failed before, so what

They say no one has ever done it before, so what

They say only a fool would try and do it, so what

You say so what because

You know who you are

You know what you’re capable of 

You know you’re strong enough

You know you’re smart enough

You know no one has ever done it, but you don’t care because you aren’t like everyone else

You know you are special, you were born to be great, and no one is going to stop you from reaching your full potential

So let them go ahead and doubt you, so what

Don’t overthink it

Don’t overthink it

Don’t look for reasons it can’t be done?

Don’t worry about failing?

Don’t ask yourself, is this the right thing to do?

Follow your heart

Believe in yourself

If you fall, dust yourself off and go back to work

It’s your life, your destiny; grab hold of it and let your passion be your roadmap to success. 

Tell Me Why?

Tell me why? 

Why do you doubt yourself? 

Why do you believe you can not soar with eagles? 

Is it because you’re afraid to try something new?

Is it because others say you can’t do it? 

Is it because you are afraid of failing? 

Is it because you tried before and failed? 

Do you even know, or do you just accept that you can’t do it? 

Greatness is never just handed to someone. The truly great learn from their failures and forge ahead. They do allow themselves to be discouraged; they pay no attention to those who are quick to point to their failure as a reason to give up hope. They are not afraid to get back up and look for a new way to succeed because they believe that they have it within themselves to achieve anything that they put their minds to. With each lesson learned, they add another rung to the ladder, a ladder that eventually will take them to their desire destination. A ladder that will lead them to a place where eagles soar. 

So I ask again tell me why you can’t soar as well? 

My opinion has nothing to do with who you are and what you can accomplish

To paraphrase Morpheus of The Matrix: Do you think that my opinion has anything to do with who you are and what you can accomplish? Too often in life, we let others define us instead of defining who we are ourselves. Only we truly know who we are and what we want. Only we can unlock our true potential by believing in ourselves. Only we know if we have the dedication to achieve our goals through hard work and preserve when the journey gets hard. It is in defining ourselves that we establish a set of rules for how we will proactively act to create opportunities to better ourselves, and once those opportunities present themselves, how we will instinctively work to achieve our goals, no one can do that for us but ourselves. Some will look at the stars you reach for and think you have bitten off more than you chew. That’s alright; let them they don’t know the potential that lies within you, and their opinion has nothing to do with who you are and what you can accomplish.

A colorless existence? Not me

You know they’re out there doubting you, laughing at your failures, talking about you behind you’re back while smiling in your face. But no matter how much they doubt you, you keep moving forward in the pursuit of your dreams. The funny thing is none of them ever dared to step off the cliff and believe they could fly. They long ago discarded their childhood’s colorful dreams instead choosing to live a colorless existence as an adult. From afar, many of them appear happy. They have a good job, house, and car, but the truth is that deep down, they despise their day to day life. They periodically think back to those childhood dreams and wonder what if, as they say in Star Trek, bodily went in the direction of those dreams. But you’re not one of them. You see your life as a blank canvass waiting for you to splash those colorful childhood dreams on to it and do what makes you happy. You work hard to achieve that happiness because you know that your dreams don’t merely manifest themselves out of thin air; you believe in yourself and are not afraid to step off that cliff, and when you fly, you know you’ll never have to wonder what if.

Looks like I made it

As I sat on my deck, I noticed a gentle mist had started, but I didn’t get up. Instead, I sat there admiring the trees and grass. When I was young, there were no trees, no grass to look at. It was just block after block of concrete. That time seems so long ago now, I guess I thought to myself, as the mist turned into a drizzle, I made it. Everyone thought I was living in a dream world, that if I didn’t give up these crazy dreams, I would never amount to anything, and they were all too quick to point out each time I failed, and I failed a lot.  But there was one person who believed in me, kept pushing me, and encouraging me never to stop chasing my dreams. That person was me.

For as long as I could remember, I believed that I was born to be unique, to stand out from the crowd. While the masses would march to the drummer’s beat, I would salsa to Tito Puente’s rhythm. Now ironically, the same people who told me I would never make it ask me what my secret of success is. I laugh to myself and tell them I always knew that greatness was in me I just had to work hard, push myself, never give up, reject the fear of failure and not let anyone take away my dreams.  Right then, my 6-year-old son called out to me, “Daddy, it’s raining. Come inside.” I looked at him and smiled as I said, “it’s ok, your Daddy never gets caught in the rain because he learned how to soar above the clouds.” 

I don’t believe in the no-win scenario

Captain James T. Kirk famously said I don’t believe in the no-win scenario. Kirk liked to think there always are…possibilities. 

How many times in our life have we given up on or not even tried to accomplish something because our minds have been conditioned to believe it was not possible no matter what we do? That it was a no-win scenario. How different would our lives be if we allowed ourselves to accept the simple concept that there are always possibilities? 

Many in society don’t want us to believe that. Be it because they have achieved a level of success they don’t want us to reach, or they are afraid of reaching for the stars. But we deserve success as much as anyone else, and we should not fear reaching for the stars because we may not capture them. We should fear letting the opportunity for greatness elude us because we settled for mediocrity. After all, we’ll never get to captain the Starship Enterprise if we believe in no-win scenarios.