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Memories of Us

It’s been a minute hasn’t it been, but there you were in my dreams again tip toeing into my subconscious when I thought I had forgotten all about you.  I’m not going to lie seeing you again brought a smile to my face,  all the good memories we created together flooding my mind.  It’s funny now to think there was a time that the thought of you and I, what we were and how that is no more made me sad. But that time has passed, I’m so much stronger now. Aware now of all the love that had always been afforded me by so many.  To finally understand that the love of the Lord is stronger than any love I could ever desire.  I’ve learned to embrace myself, to love myself. So yes now the memory of the happy times between us, and there were some damn good times, makes me smile for I accept now they were an essential part of the journey I’ve been on to being the person I am today.  Goodbye for now it was nice seeing you again and I hope you have found the happiness that you were a part of in me finding mine. 

My best friend, My strongest ally is the Lord

Each day I awake anxious to continue my conversation with you, to thank you for the chance to walk another day upon the Earth. I am encouraged in the belief that no matter where the day shall take me I never walk alone. Each day my life is little more enriched by the knowledge you are my savior and my soul burns with the light of a thousand lights knowing that because of my faith in you and your love for me nothing is impossible. I endeavor to let nothing or no one come between me and my faith. I am reassured in the belief that as I continue to give you praise and strengthen my faith in you nothing can diminish your love for me. I revel in the knowledge that I need not worry about earthly problems because you help carry my load and in your ultimate wisdom will bestow on to me the strength and courage to overcome.  I am fortunate enough to have found you for you are truly my best friend and my strongest ally and it is for that reason that I am truly blessed.

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Is your faith strong and pure?

Anyone can say they have faith but it is only those whose relationship with the Lord is strong and pure that truly have it. Life gives us our share of up and downs and as with anything the up times are easy. During the up times we cruise along enjoying the moment. For so many of us we do not take the time to stop and praise the Lord for bestowing upon us his blessings, believing rather arrogantly that it is we ourselves and we alone that are responsible for our success. But true faith is defined by our actions in the down times. It is in the downtimes that our arrogance is stripped from us. It is doing the downtime that many of us blame the Lord for our troubles. True faith asks are you willing to accept responsibility for your part in whatever has gone wrong. Are you willing to make the changes required to strengthen your relationship with the Lord, or will you simply grumble that he has forsaken you and walk away from Him. For so many of us when faced with this choice we find it easier to just walk away from the Lord. Now do not misconstrue me the fact is that for the vast majority of us our faith comes with some semblance of doubt. We are after all human and by definition none of us are perfect and as such it is natural that our faith wavers at times, especially in times of tribulation. However for those whose faith in the Lord is strong and pure while it may initially waver eventually we realize that the Lord always walks with us because of He created us, we are His children, He forgives our sins and He loves us. We believe that He is always working to remove our troubles and provide us with a new and renewed spirit. We fall back on our faith not because we say we have it but because it is pure and true. Because we value the good times the Lord has provided for us and understand that the only way not to lose them is to praise Him each and every day, in good and bad times. It is when we are willing to let go and put our faith in the Lord will we see that there is nothing He will let us go without, that with Him all things are possible. It is only then that we can truly say we have faith and that it is pure and true.

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Make it a kiss

Don’t wait to show her you love her. Tonight walk up to her and pull her close. Look into her eyes but utter not a sound for no words are needed in this moment. Lean in and kiss her but not just any kiss make it a kiss so sensual, so passionate that it leaves her lost in the moment of a kiss like no kiss she has ever experienced. Make it a kiss that reminds her how special she is, how beautiful she is, how sexy she is. Make it a kiss that reminds her that no other woman could ever stir your emotions like she can. Make it a kiss that messes up her lipstick in a way her lipstick has never been messed up before. Make it a kiss that when it is over her body quivers with anticipation of your lips meeting once again. Make it a kiss that without any words uttered says I love you. Don’t just kiss her make it a kiss!

Letter to an ex

Life’s too short to hide your feelings, better to bare your heart and soul than to wake every morning the rest of your life with regret. So let me be brutally honest I am still very much in love with you; I miss everything about you – the sound of your voice, your breath taking beauty, your dazzling smile, your mesmerizing eyes and the sweet taste of your kiss. But most important I miss having you, the woman I love there everyday when I wake up.

It always amazed me – the connection I felt the very first moment I kissed you. Love at first kiss – YES!! When I looked in your eyes after that first kiss I knew you were the only one I would ever want to spend my life with. You are my best friend, my lover, the person I have given the key to my heart.  My love for you has no end of the day – for my love for you is everlasting. I do not need others to confirm this I only need to know what is in my heart. Despite our time apart that feeling has not changed, in fact it has only intensified and I very much regret letting other things get in the way of me showing that to you everyday.

I’m not asking you to go back to how it was. Rather I’m asking you to go forward, to a new start, a new beginning. I hope that in your heart somewhere a little bit of “us” still exist. I know I am not perfect I know I made some terrible mistakes and I am very sorry for them, there is not a day that goes by that I don’t deeply regret them. But I have heard it said the past does not erase the future, you learn from your mistakes and become a better person So I ask that you consider reopening your heart to a future with me, That you allow me to show you that I am in fact still very much the man you fell in love only better having learned from my mistakes. Open your heart once again to us and I will ensure that each and every day of our lives will be nothing short of a remarkable and passionate love affair.

It’s you

I check my phone every few minutes for your text
I listen to songs the remind me of you
I close my eyes and I see your smile
I miss you every minute you are away
You have awaken my soul
You have given me strength
You have opened my heart to the joy of true love
You bring me true happiness
I count the minutes until I see you again
I can’t wait for when I can hold you again
You are my everything
I love you

Real Men Walk Away

I’m six feet 240 pounds. When I was 29 years old I dated a beautiful young lady who was all of five feet 105 pounds, quite the odd couple we were.  Our relationship was like a supernova.  We met, fell in love, burned bright for two years and then exploded never to see each other again. The passion of our relationship would at times lead to animated disagreements and it was during one of these disagreements that she, all five feet 105 pounds of her, leapt off the floor her hand clinched and punched me square on the jaw. I was stunned for a second and then I reacted. I took one step back looked her right in the face and… told her I was going for a walk.  It was the only reaction I could ever have imagined. It was the reaction my father Charles W. Cooke had taught me since I was a child.  To be a man you have to act like a man he would say and that means you never put your hands on a woman.  I share this story not to pat myself on the back, after all you don’t pat yourself on the back for doing what you’re supposed to do, but to make a point to the embarrassing number of young men who say Ray Rice may have been provoked, that he may have had a good reason for striking his now wife. That point is a simple one; there is never a good reason for striking a woman.  Never.  To truly be a man you have to accept the fact that there are some things that come with the territory. One of those things is the understanding that by nature we are the bigger and stronger gender physically and that our strength is to be used to protect the women in our lives not to abuse them.  If one day you are placed in the awkward situation where a woman decides to “test your manhood” by putting her hands on you your response is simple, you walk away. Walking away confirms your manhood because a real man walks away while a coward strikes back.

This summer we had 2 elevator videos to view and dissect and while we made fun of the now infamous Jay-Z and Solange video it was in that video that a man who grew up in the projects of Brooklyn showed us how a real man reacts by simply not reacting. So young men next time you want to keep it real, prove you’re not a punk, be a real man do what real men do and walk away.