You think your self doubt protects you, shields you from the unknown, the possibilities of failure. You believe your self doubt has served you well. You do not call it self doubt you call it practical and smart decision making. But deep down you realize that your self doubt has limited your potential. Your life can best be described as humdrum, you are paralyzed to step out of the box and seize the opportunities presented to you for fear of failure There is a part of you that craves more but your self doubt or as you would say your smart and practical decision making has convinced you to accept the status quo. After all you tell yourself if you march to the beat of the drummer and don’t rock the boat everything will be fine. You no longer grow and growth is paramount to a person’s long term happiness in themselves. Fortunately you are not bound by self doubt you can overcome it. The first step is taking a step back and admitting that you have it. Nothing can be overcome unless you believe it is there in the first place. Once you have acknowledged self doubt you define yourself in the positive. Defining yourself in a positive light rather that relying on the opinions of others will help you build self worth. Having a healthy self worth means you look inward not outward for validation never having to question if others think you can accomplish something but knowing you can accomplish it. Embrace the opportunities presented to you with the full knowledge that you may fail. Accept that failure is but a building block of success providing you with valuable lessons. Finally build on your small successes, drink them in no matter how small they may be, as they will help your self confidence evolve. Self confidence is like the proverbial snowball rolling down hill, except your self confidence will be headed the other way, the more you achieve now the greater it becomes later. Once you have decided to step out of the box you are currently in and grab hold of your future follow these steps to cast away your self doubt and to unleash the potential that lives within you.
Self doubt, the fear of the unknown, too often it paralyses us from moving forward. We forsake our dreams afraid to take the path of the unknown. We prefer instead to travel the known path frequented by the many, the path of least resistance. That path may offer security but rarely does it offer the possibilities our soul strives for. We should not fear the ramifications of traveling the unknown road. We should fear the lost possibilities for traveling only the known one. For one who favors the path of the unknown in favor of of the known will forever be a prisoner of society’s definition of who and what they are and never shall they achieve their dreams.
For the longest, I wondered what if I had walked away from that last argument. Would things have been different? Would we still be together? The answer, of course, is no. We would have stayed together another day, a week, maybe a month, but the end was as inevitable as the start. We were drawn to each other, needing each other really for our own separate and selfish reasons. We were destined to be together, but we weren’t destined to stay together. We were lovers before we had a chance to lay a foundation to build on, to become best friends. Without that, it was easy to take each other for granted, to push our wants and needs to the front of the line. No one would ever confuse our relationship as being built on compromise. Yet there was something there wasn’t there? Something that even long-lasting relationships don’t have. An electricity between us, an aura, that distinctive quality that seemed to surround and be generated by us being together. You could feel it; others could sense it; the way they would look at us, it was clear that two of us together were something special. But love does not last based on an aura. Love last when two people put in the time and effort to keep it alive. If two people genuinely love each other, if they don’t put in that effort, the aura will dim, the love will fade. For us, the effort was simply not there. It wasn’t our destiny to stay together, not in this life. But maybe our souls will cross in a future life, and we’ll get it right as I suspect we have done in past lives. Destiny simply can not be denied.