Author Archives: Carl A. Cooke

A Legacy of Failure

Time will pass, and your legacy will be one of abject failure; now, staring at your last chance to stand up and be a leader, you turned your back on it.  Your last stand forever to be defined as an act of weakness. Your delusions of grandeur extinguished by a power far greater than you, extinguished by the voice of the people. One can only wonder when you look in the mirror if you ponder to yourself how your last stand could have been that of a man and not that of a weakling

Criticism

Criticism is defined as a critical observation or remark.

While criticism can often be an indispensable source in helping us grow, it can never take the place of having the courage to stand in the arena. Many are quick to tell us where we have gone wrong but stand on the sidelines, afraid to get their hands dirty. It is the doer of deeds who counts in the battle for life, not the man who looks on and says how the fight ought to be fought, without himself be willing to share in the stress and the danger.”

I’m not a psychiatrist, but I play one on television. 

The year 2020 has brought so much heartache to so many that when we are feeling overwhelmed or sad. When we want to let out a scream or ball up in a corner and cry, it seems we are selfish. How could we complain about our problems, feel sad about anything when we have so much compared to others. When we have been blessed not to know the pain that 2020 has brought to so many. But let’s not forget we are still only human, and while our pain may not be as great as others, it is still our pain. Please do not push it down and let it fester that is not healthy for you or anyone around you. Let out that scream, have a good cry, talk to someone about what is troubling you. Do what will make you feel better, and don’t feel guilty about it because you can’t help others if you don’t help yourself first.

Women are many things

Women are many things, but two stand out.

They are our Mothers

The woman we fell in love with as a baby;
The woman who picked us up when we fell;
The woman who wiped our tears when we were hurt;
The woman who gave us that hug that made us feel better any band-aid ever could;
The woman who talked us through that time, our first crush broke our heart.

They are Our Best Friends, Our Partners, and Our Lovers

The woman who inspired us to reach for greater heights;
The woman who with their first kiss captured our heart;
The woman who held our hand and told us it would be alright in times of doubt;
The woman who stood beside and believed in us when no one else would;
The woman who makes our house our home

Women are our rock from birth till death.
Thank goodness for Women

Things About Me Most Don’t Know

  1. I will often take the opposing side of an issue even if I don’t support it because I find it fun to debate.
  2. I am a master at hiding my feelings when I’ve been hurt, or I’m feeling sad.
  3. I often feel or sense the presence of others around me but not truly near me, and as such, I’m fascinated by the concept of varying planes of existence and parallel universes.
  4. While I’m not all in (I’m no Mulder, but I wouldn’t mind working with Scully), I can be somewhat of a conspiracy theorist at times
  5. Relationships and love are vital to me, and while I have made some major mistakes in my pursuit of them, I refuse to stop looking for my soulmate because I know she out there (hello Halle Berry )
  6. My secret desire is to be a published author, now if I just knew how to write.
  7. I will stick by your side through more sh#* than even you could imagine, but if you cross that last line and really who knows where that is, like most Virgos, I’ll cut you out of my life and never look back.
  8. I hated going bald, but now I realize I wear it well.
  9. I’ve known my oldest friend since 3rd grade; he’s like a brother to me, and we met and became friends by bonding over Star Trek. The original series, that is.

America is not a country – America is a concept

America is not a country.

America is a concept.

A concept based on the founding fathers’ words in the Declaration of Independence, the document that announces America’s creation. Words that America did not live up to at that time, words that America has fought to live up to ever since, but words in which America was created:

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness.

America is the largest and the world’s only real “melting pot,” A society whose success is defined by immigrants’ contributions from all over sharing thoughts and ideas to create one new culture. It is written in the United States’ very seal, E pluribus unum – “From many, one.”

Sadly, at the very time, America is becoming increasingly diverse; it is becoming more polarized. The concept on which it was founded, the concept that allowed it to become the world’s leading nation, is slowly being forgotten by many of its citizens.  Just as the founding fathers spent four long months debating with each other, listening to each other’s points of view, and coming to compromises that benefited the collective in a real democracy, the citizens must listen to and understand one another. They cannot hope to sustain their democracy by merely pursuing their interests;  They must be willing to make concessions in the hope of finding common ground for the good of America as a whole. 

Online decision-making platform Cloverpop found a direct link between workplace diversity and decision-making.  When diverse teams made a business decision, they outperformed individual decision-makers up to 87% of the time.  When employees with different backgrounds and perspectives come together, they develop more solutions, which leads to more informed and improved decision-making processes and results.  Whether some accept it or not, this is the hallmark of America.  It is what makes America stand out. America is not a specific racial or ethnic identity or religious belief.  America is differing groups with varying moral and religious outlooks, coming together to embrace America’s concept. It is in their diversity that America exists.

In the last four years, we have seen America led by a President who promoted division and hatred.  Stroked fears and tacitly promoted the idea that for a particular segment, they were losing their America.  Ironically it was the person he defeated to become President who truly understood what makes America great when she said:

What we have to do… is to find a way to celebrate our diversity and debate our differences without fracturing our communities.

Secretary Clinton understood that no one group could claim America, and therefore no one group can lose America. America is what it is because it is a beautiful mosaic, and while we may not always see eye to eye, that is fine.  We may have differences, that too is fine.  As Surak, the most influential philosopher in the history of the planet Vulcan, remarked:

I am pleased to see that we have differences.  May we together become greater than the sum of both of us.