Life is a continuous journey defined by one experience after another. Not all these experiences are pleasant in fact some of them are downright unpleasant but here’s what we need to understand about those unpleasant experiences. As much, if not more than, the pleasant the unpleasant has shaped us into who we are at this moment. The key is how we treat those experiences.
Will we let it paralyze us with fear?
As children we feared the boogeyman but as we grew older we realized that there was no such thing as the boogeyman and there was nothing to fear. As adults we must grasp the concept there is no such thing as fear. Fear is only a state of mind it is not real. Many of us fear the unpleasant thought of failure, but failure is not something to fear. Failure is something to learn from, to grow from, to gain strength from. Failure can be our most powerful motivator if looked at through the proper lens
Will we let it scar us?
Yes, some experiences will scar us there is no denying that, we cannot escape that, we cannot pretend the experience did not occur. But we can embrace it. We can wear our scars proudly as a symbol of our rebirth, our survival. A sign that we fell but got back up and we are stronger for doing so.
It is only when we accept that all of our experiences are but stops in our continuous journey of growth that we will be able to unlock our minds and our hearts to our true potential.
They see the smile, a smile that conceals the pain behind it.
They see the many friends, friends that hide the loneliness within you.
They hear the laughter, laughter that disguises the depression you feel.
They watch as you reach out to all those who need help never imagining you secretly covet someone to reach out to you.
Your face is a mask and you are but an actor. But there are fleeting seconds when the stage lights dim, the crowd empties out and now alone you remove your mask and to see the tears that are streaming down your face.
But in those seconds know this, you are not alone.There is someone who feels your pain, knows your loneliness and sees your depression.Someone who has always loved you and whose arms have always been outstretched toward you. That someone is the Lord and all you need to do is believe. Believe that if you put your faith in Him in time He will relieve you of your troubles and you will need your mask no more.
How refreshing it was to watch the democratic debate on CNN last night and see so many of faces. White, Black, Latino and Asian; Men and Women; Straight and Gay; Young and Old, Progressives and Moderates. All vying to be the democratic nominee for President. Now you can agree or disagree with their politics, but you can’t deny that almost everyone in America could look at that stage and see someone they could personally identify with and that’s what makes America great. We are a country of many different races, ethnicities, beliefs, religions, sexualities, economic levels and social beliefs, an incredible mosaic woven together to form very fabric of America. It was the founding fathers who imagined this America when declaring independence from British rule proudly stating:
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal
At the time it was more of an ideal than something that was practiced, there was still the little issues of slavery and displacing Native Americans from their home land, but it was an ideal never the less of what America could and should be. Today there are still those among us who would have you believe America was at its greatest when segregation was the rule of day, when opportunities for women in the workplace were far and few between, when being gay was meet with societal shame. That America is no more. America is changing, some may think not fast-enough, but it is changing. Evolving beyond its past prejudices. We are now the majority, we are the coalition of the righteous. It is why I believe you see individuals who turn a blind eye to alleged corruption by our current President and cling to his mantra of hate and division and a time when as a Americans we were less enlightened time fighting so hard now. They are afraid of the new America, unwilling to open themselves up to anyone or anything that is different from themselves and what they believe to be right. This is their last stand and they know it, but it is to late momentum is against them, the new America is here, and it is many faces coming together to form one voice and shout:
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal
It is after all the ideal that America was founded on.
The heart knows no concept of time, for the heart time is nothing more than a meaningless concept, a man-made measure. It is why the heart of someone who has known love but for a brief period can be broken just as easily and hurt just as much as that of someone who has loved for a long period of time. The heart never asks how long it has been? The heart only knows that it feels the way it does when that special someone walks in the room, smiles at you, holds your hand, looks into your eyes and says they love you. It does not matter to the heart if they have known that person for 2 months, 2 years or 2 decades it only knows that person makes it feel a way no one else does. Others may ask how you could be so hurt after all you only were only with them but for a second and your brain may struggle with that question, but the heart knows. The time your heart needs to heal from the loss of that special person does not equate like some mathematical equation to the amount of time you were with them. Yes, you will get stronger as the days go by and yes you will learn to let go. You will come to a point where you will allow yourself to look back and smile at all the good times you shared without being sad that they are no more. You will embrace the truth, that you will never truly forget them because the heart truly never forgets. But your heart will heal in its own time and then and only then will you be able to open it up to love again.
It’s been a minute hasn’t it been, but there you were in my dreams again tip toeing into my subconscious when I thought I had forgotten all about you.I’m not going to lie seeing you again brought a smile to my face, all the good memories we created together flooding my mind. It’s funny now to think there was a time that the thought of you and I, what we were and how that is no more made me sad. But that time has passed, I’m so much stronger now. Aware now of all the love that had always been afforded me by so many. To finally understand that the love of the Lord is stronger than any love I could ever desire. I’ve learned to embrace myself, to love myself. So yes, now the memory of the happy times between us, and there were some damn good times, makes me smile for I accept now they were an essential part of the journey I’ve been on to be the person I am today.Goodbye for now it was nice seeing you again and I hope you have found the happiness that you were a part of in me finding mine.
Morpheus: This is our country, everyone treated the same regardless of the color of their skin, gender, ethnic make-up, or religious belief. Individuals are judged purely on the content of their character. Everyone has health care and parents send their children to school unafraid they may be the victim of a mass shooting. There is no social or racial injustice. People walk down the street unafraid that they may be wrongfully targeted simply because of the color of their skin. Everyone is afforded the same opportunities regardless of their social, ethnic or economic background. It seems too perfect doesn’t it Neo? You know something is not right don’t you Neo? You can feel it
Neo: We’re living an illusion?
Neo: But why?
Morpheus: Is it so hard really to believe? Our democracy was designed to be one where the power comes from the people not a ruler or group of powerful individuals who would do whatever they want. It was founded on the belief that these truths are self evident all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. Yet that has always been an illusion hasn’t it.
Neo: Are you saying our democracy has never been real?
Morpheus: What is real. How do you define real? If you’re talking about the people being the source of power or that all men are created equal, then real is simply a bunch of words written on a piece of paper. That America only exists in a series of oft cited but rarely enacted words. A constitution to be held up to the rest of the world as a symbol of the moral high ground we supposedly occupy. That America doesn’t exist if you believe it does…Well you’ve been living in a dream world, Neo.
This is the country as it really exists today. Racism and bigotry are still alive and well, the pursuit of happiness for many impeded by economic and social injustice roadblocks. The few controlling the narrative and dictating policy so as to maintain their power, enrich their bank accounts. Millions of citizens living in poverty and millions more without health insurance. Children forced to go to bed hungry, funding for education constantly under siege…. Welcome to the Desert of the Real Neo. Having seen all of this I have come to realize the obviousness of the truth. Control. Democracy today is control an illusion propagated by those in power to keep the masses under control.
Neo: No. I don’t believe it. It’s not possible.
Morpheus: I didn’t say it would be easy, Neo. I just said it would be the truth.