Monthly Archives: July 2015

The Art of the bluff – In love it can be devastating

The art of the bluff – In poker the best hand doesn’t always win; a skillful player can force a player with a better hand to walk away from the table simply by playing confidently and raising accordingly. The risk however is great. If the person sitting across from you doesn’t walk away, maybe they know you’re bluffing, maybe their cards are too good to walk away, or maybe they just don’t know any better, whatever it is if they push all their chips to the center of the table and call your bluff… well cards don’t lie and when you turn them over for the world to see, the best hand wins and you’ve been beat.

Love however offers an atypical view of the bluff, like so many things in the world of love the art of the bluff is upside down. You see in love when someone is bluffing, pretending to be all in but really barely in at all, their risk is minimal. If the person in the relationship with them walks away they suffer no loss, after all they weren’t really in love so no harm no foul. But where it really gets crazy is when the person they’re in a relationship with decides to go all in. When this happens the bluffer not only doesn’t get beat, the person who went all in loses everything. You see they say in poker you can’t lose what you don’t put in the middle and in this case the only one who put anything in the middle was the person who believed they were in a relationship with someone who truly loved them as much as they loved them. Here again the cards don’t lie but when these cards are turned over for the world to see, the heart flush loses to…well it loses to everything.

Losing it all can be devastating but it’s how you react after losing it all that determines if this was simply one bad hand that you can learn from or the beginning of the end. The last part of the saying you can’t lose what you don’t put in the middle is – But you can’t win much either – and that’s just it, love is a gamble. To find love you have to be willing to throw yourself in the wind to take a chance. You have to be willing to give your heart to some person who you hardly even know and trust that they will not only not break it but in turn give their heart to you. Sure you’ve been down this road and your heart has been broken before so why shouldn’t you just play it safe? Never push all your chips to the middle of the table again. Unquestionably you’ll never get hurt again playing it this way. But you’ll never find love either. You’ll never know that feeling of waking up looking over at the person lying next to you and smiling, knowing that you’re going to grow old with this person, knowing you would do anything for them and that they would do anything for you. And why? Because of love, you love them and they love you and that’s all there is to it. So if you’ve lost a hand recently it’s ok go lick your wounds, give your heart a moment to mend itself and then cash right back into the game. Because after all you can’t find love if you don’t look for love.

Morpheus In America 2015

I love the Matrix, part one that is, and while parts two and three didn’t quite measure up there are still some great moments in them. One scene that I love is Morpheus’ speech to Zion in the second movie. I always thought that speech could be used in today’s world for so many things and with race relations still playing such a prominent role in America today, especially between blacks and whites I thought how could that speech be altered to describe the African American experience today. I think I reimagined it pretty well.

Believe me when I say we have a difficult time ahead of us. But if we are to be prepared for it, we must first shed our fear of it. I stand here, before you now, truthfully unafraid. Why? Because I believe something you do not? No, I stand here without fear because I remember. I remember that I am here not because of the path that lies before me but because of the path that lies behind me. I remember that for 400 years we have endured slavery, racism and the denial of basic human rights. I remember that our names and heritage were ripped from us. I remember that our men were beaten our woman were raped and our children were taken from us and sold as property. I remember when we were finally freed from the bonds of slavery we were still denied education and the right to vote. I remember how we were held down by Jim Crow and terrorized by the Ku Klux Klan. I remember that even after a man of color rose to serve as our President, a man of extraordinary strength and intelligence, there are still those that look to demean our character, to challenge our intelligence, to hold us down. To if given the opportunity destroy us. But what I remember most is that after almost 400 years … We are still here! Creating breath taking masterpieces and inspiring others in literature, art and music. Producing life saving breakthroughs in science and medicine. Achieving great things each and every day and with each step we take forward we leave an indelible fingerprint on the very fabric of a country that once tore itself to pieces in a Civil War because half of it believed as it was said at the time that: the negro is not equal to the white man; that slavery, subordination to the superior race, is his natural and normal condition.

Yes I remember that through it all we are still here and we are not only surviving we are thriving. Yet despite our accomplishments our journey is far from complete and as I said we have a difficult time ahead of us. For each of our achievements only produce fear among those among us who still preach hate, who look to divide, those who do not believe in the brotherhood of all but rather hold onto the old ways of subjugation and bondage.

So today let us send a message to those who still cling to the past, those who still preach hatred, those who still wish to divide this great nation not on the content of our character but on the the color of our skin. Today let us shake this country, let us tremble these amber waves of grain and purple mountain majesties from sea to shining sea. Today let us make them remember, this is America where we hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men and all women regardless of color are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of happiness.


Looking at it now It’s funny that you didn’t believe in me.

Looking at it now It’s funny that you didn’t believe in me.

Sure I fell a few times along the way but really did you believe I wouldn’t get back up?  Sure I suffered defeat a few times along the way but really did you believe I was defeated?  You see greatness was always in me you just needed to look to see it.  Now here I stand my future looking brighter everyday.

Looking at it now It’s funny that you didn’t believe in me.

Stop pretending the Confederate Flag is something it’s not

So I saw this in the Huffington Post today

A group of Confederate-flag-waving protesters gathered near the Oklahoma high school where President Barack Obama is scheduled to speak Wednesday afternoon, insisting that what they were doing was about heritage rather than racism. “We’re not gonna stand down from our heritage. You know, this flag’s not racist. And I know a lot of people think it is, but it’s really not. It’s just a southern thing, that’s it,” Trey Johnson, who drove three hours from Texas to join the protest, told KFOR.

I thought about this for a few minutes. It’s a southern thing? Hmmm well I know a lot of people from the south black white and a whole lot of in between and they don’t consider it a southern thing, so no Trey can’t agree with that.

It’s not really racist. Let’s hold off on that thought for a second Trey I’ll get back to you on that one.

It’s a part of southern heritage. Well you’ve got something there, in fact you’re 100% right Trey I have to agree. Unfortunately the particular part of Southern heritage you speak of just happens to be the biggest act of treason in the history of the United States of America, you know the country you live in. Because when the South fired on Fort Sumter while it was flying the star and stripes it was not just an act of war. But because those shots came from citizens of the United States it was also considered treason. Don’t believe me Trey? Here’s the definition of treason.

The crime of betraying one’s country, especially by attempting to kill the sovereign or overthrow the government.

See I’m not making this up and since I think we can all agree that the south was looking to overthrow the government of the United States… Yep treason.

Now Trey let’s get back to that it’s not really racist arguement. Let’s just for the fun of it wonder why would the South would commit the act of treason in the first place? Could it be because they were committed to maintaining the racist belief that the African American was inferior and should continues to serve whites as slaves. No that couldn’t be it because that would be racist right. But then there this little speech called the Cornerstone speech in which Confederate Vice President Alexander Stephens articulated that:

Our new Government is founded upon exactly the opposite ideas; its foundations are laid, its cornerstone rests, upon the great truth that the negro is not equal to the white man; that slavery, subordination to the superior race, is his natural and normal condition.

Damn that sounds pretty racist Trey. You know Trey maybe it’s time to embrace the fact that the South lost the war. Maybe it’s time to embrace a Southern Heritage of inclusion and brotherhood. Rather than division and racism. Maybe it’s time to stop pretending the Confederate flag is something it’s not and leave it where it belongs in the past.